Saturday, 29 January 2011
This is a must watch, a very good presentation from Martin Jacques on TEDtalks. I like the enthusiasm the he has on the talk. Not sure how much I agree with him but he certainly touch on several important key points that made China into an economic powerhouse today and in the coming years. However I certainly agree when he mentioned about how 'ignorant' the Western perspective of the East and other cultures due to the Western dominance in the last two Centuries. Oh and apparently the Chinese invented golf.
Wednesday, 12 January 2011
We all know that our Chinese parents have a reputation are particularly stricter and demanding. Just this week an article on the Wall Street Journal by a Chinese author Amy Chua has caused a stir amongst the Asian American blogoshere. The outline of the article basically says that the reason why 'Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids' is simply they were given the traditional Chinese upbringing. Thus this 'tough love' technique is what makes Chinese children to be academically high achievers. As oppose to Western parents, no matter how strict they are are always considerate of their Children's self esteem and 'respect their individuality'. As the author mentioned she even calls her daughter 'garbage'. They'll take it to the extreme to even yell at their kids and basically make them 'feel like garbage' if they fail to achieve anything below grade A. Now this surely crosses the line of emotional abuse. But to Amy forcing these values onto the kids is a method of good parenting.
To some extent I can see certain relevance to Amy's account on Chinese parents and there elements of truth to it. However it's not as simple as diverting it into the so-called 'Chinese' and 'Western' approach. I see this as the characteristic of poor immigrant parents who wants to push their children so they have a better future that are different to their parents. In a sense it's a legitimate reason. But for arguments sake I'll just follow her dualistic categories.
It is true that the 'Chinese technique' of raising kids can produce high achievers. We can see this in the statistics. However even with all of that there's no guarantee that it will work on all everyone and at the same time I know many who have achieved success without any intervention from their parents. I can testify that with real life examples. As parents trying to push their kids to have academic achievements will totally constrain other important aspects of personal development such as self-esteem and self-confidence, which is equally as important beyond the academic life if not even more. The pressure being placed children and young adults can take it's toll, as it drove many to commit suicide or suffer mental breakdown.
In the end we need to ask ourselves what is the definition of success? Are these definition of success being placed on by their parents will automatically lead to a happy and fulfilling life? Everyone has different aspiration and passion that we want to pursue, it's no good when parents try to forced us into a path that go against our natural ability. After all those hours of studying may get you a high earning job (I say may because there's no guarantee) or practising your musical instrument can get you a lot praises but it doesn't make you a better person. Many will become lost as they become adults because they are too used to being dictated by their parents. You may look back and ask yourself what was all that for?
Of course emphasising on education is not a bad thing, but balance is the key to raising healthy children. Academic success isn't everything. In the end 'Chinese' mothers are not superior than 'Western' mothers or vice versa. Nor is it fair to confine them with these characteristics.
I heard that the author Amy Chua (who I've never heard of before) has just recently launched her new book. Maybe the provocative article was done as a publicity stunt to sell more books. Well it probably has worked for her.
Here's a really good post from a blog that counteracts Amy Chua's article:
Parents like Amy Chua are the reason why Asian-Americans like me are in therapy/
Wednesday, 5 January 2011
28 February 1931 – 2 January 2011
It was sad to hear Hong Kong democracy activist Szeto Wah's death last Sunday. He's been going through a long fight with lung cancer which greatly deteriorated his health in the past months. Unfortunately it claimed his life at the age of 79. I have came to learn about him only very recently. Szeto Wah has been an important political figure, mostly known for his promotion for democracy and campaign for the victims of the Tienanmen Square incident, which he never failed to turn up for the commemoration each year. His persistence and strong spirit to fight on has been an admiration to many activists.
Within his life long career right up to his death he has made numerous achievements in the fight for democracy. He founded Hong Kong's first political party United Democrats of Hong Kong which later became the Democratic Party. Szeto Wah has always been very vocal in criticising the Chinese Government for human rights abuse. But have equally made criticism of the British colonial rule. He has founded the Hong Kong Alliance in Support of Patriotic Democratic Movement of China in 1989 right after the Tienanmen Square. Thanks to the effort the victim of the incident will always be remembered. Unfortunately this got him along with other activists barred from China.
Of course his career was not a smooth ride, he has been called a 'traitor to the nation' for his push for a multiparty rule in China. And just last year he was heckled in a rally for supporting the Legislative Council's reform package which goes against the Democratic Party's principle. Regardless all of his concerns are for the best of Chinese people, he is a patriot at heart.
The exiled leaders of Tienanmen Square student protests Wang Dan and Wuer Kaixi are hoping to take part in the memorial service, however they are likely to be denied entry to Hong Kong by the Beijing Government. So much for 'one country two system' then. Even though Szeto Wah had lost his fight to cancer his legacy will continue to live on for sure.
Sunday, 2 January 2011
Looking back I have been quite inconsistent with the blog and not to say missing out many things that I could've covered. It's quite exhausting trying to write something constructive sometimes especially since I don't have the natural writing talent like some people, though I am getting better hang of it through practices. I still got a few unfinished posts that are left in the vault I'll try and finish them soon. I'll set myself a target to post more frequently, however I would be too hesitant to call it a New Year's resolution. Anyhow I wish any readers whoever you are safe and happy new year from the BBC Ronin.